translate modern tls options from connect options object to ssl

The ssl connection settings were deprecated in favor of tls settings, however, as implemented the tls settings only work in the connection url but not in the connection options object.

PR #2400 resolves this issue in v3.5.8 by translating tls options in the options object in the same way that url string tls parameters are translated.

https://github.com/mongodb/node-mongodb-native/pull/2400